Aristotle once said: “Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet”.
When you don’t get what you want, what exactly goes on into your mind? Do you feel frustrated?
Do you give up on your idea?
Would you blame others for preventing you from reaching your goals?
Or do you reassess your plans, your vision and your team work?
Have you ever been in a conflicting situation during which the other person remained calm and serene, despite the repercussions that were affecting them?
Did you wonder how they managed to behave this way and stay in control of their emotions?
Do you have friends who faced failure and adversity, yet they tell you their stories with a smile and explain what they have learnt from it?
You often hear that being patient and remaining calm is considered strength and you may wonder: how can I gradually possess this attribute?
How can I bounce back after every challenge?
- Accept three situations: failure, ‘no’ and dead end roads. There are things worth fighting for in your life and career. But not everything you want is good for you at this moment in time;
- Ask why you failed and why the answer is ‘no’. You will learn something that will help you plan differently next time;
- No great achievement can be accomplished in a day. Every major outcome is the sum of small efforts over time, with discipline and consistency, clear vision and proper planning;
- Understanding others’ perceptions is important to build healthy relationships and lead businesses. Everyone has a story they would like to share, when you are willing to ask and take time to listen;
- People around you may not know what challenges you are going through. It is unfair to expect them to understand your feelings or limitations, when they have no idea what you are facing. Share information they need to appreciate where you come from, allow them time and communicate often. With patience and dialogue, the best results come to light;
- Success is rarely the act of one person alone. It is a team work of visible or invisible advisors, colleagues, partners and mentors, who provide support in different ways, coach, inspire, care and motivate, over a period of time;
- There is no better school than nature itself. You learn to plan around it, to feel humble and patient while being determined. It teaches you to respect its powerful elements;
- When you feel trapped and unable to move forward, seek positive and encouraging people around you. Remain calm, keep a constructive outlook and find the right coach, mentor or leader who inspires you to progressively break your limits.
“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time” – Leo Tolstoy.
Time and persistence go hand in hand. Together they help you improve your skills, create new ideas, build a strong team and reach your goals.
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Muriel Matta (BSc, MSc, MPhil, Cert CTT Practitioner) is the Founder of Maravilhosa.
She is a multilingual Human Resources Management expert, with extensive cross-cultural experience, spanning 26 years in MENA, Europe and CIS.
Through her work with Organizations and Individuals, she helps solve the toughest HR challenges by customizing unique training and coaching solutions to inspire change, positive thinking and transformation.
Muriel can be contacted via email: Muriel@maravilhosa.net